Letting Go of Perfect

On May 26, 2013, I set out on a mission.  A mission to let go of perfect.  A year ago, had I been asked the question, "what is a word your friends would use to describe you?", among a few, one word would likely have been PERFECTIONIST.  Of course I wasn't perfect, but I pretended to be.  I worked hard to hide the imperfections, namely broken marriage, single parenthood, financial woes, and a very imperfect house that I had no idea how to fix.  Along with starting a blog to help me heal and to hopefully assist others in their own healing, I learned some great big life lessons.  As I sit hear contemplating a really creative way to share those lessons, I remind myself, this entry is not about perfection.  So here are the life lessons I've learned in no particular order, no more weight given to one then the other, and some blank spaces for those lessons I haven't learned yet. And so be it, this is my imperfect list of important lessons: 1. Love with a really BIG

"Girls chase boys chase girls"....You've heard the song, right? A tune with a bouncy beat by Indie-pop singer songwriter, Ingrid Michaelson.  You are likely familiar with "Everybody"..."everybody, everybody wants to love, everybody, everybody wants to be loved."  A favorite of mine with a message so true to so many. "Girls chase boys chase girls" is a must listen on all accounts!  It's certainly been my top iTunes choice for the past week or so. Today, I'm driving to my new gym to "center myself" through yoga.  The sky is blue, the sun is out, and the air is warmer.  I have my windows down and I'm blasting "Girls chase boys chase girls" on my new Bluetooth device in my car, thinking this is my summer jam.  This is the song everyone has to hear.  I'm loving the beat, feeling good, when finally after days of listening to this same song over and over, the lyrics start to become recognizable to me and they si

I'm currently reading "A Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl, Holocaust Survivor, Neurologist, and Psychiatrist .  Mr. Frankl is also founder of Logotherapy. Logotherapy is founded on the belief that "it is the striving to find a meaning in one's life that is the primary, most powerful motivating and driving force in humans". In his book, A Man's Search for Meaning, Frankl speaks to his experiences in concentration camps and the techniques he used to keep himself alive.  He believed it was his controlled thought process that made him a survivor rather than victim.  In his book he talks of humor as "one of the soul's weapons in the fight for self-preservation" (Frankl, 1992).  He refers to "conversations in his mind" with his wife, who unknowingly to him at the time had perished in another concentration camp. These "talks" and thoughts with and of his beloved were another motivating force for his survival.  Fra

Could we be swaying away from the days of love at first sight?  The times when two peoples' eyes catch one another's and time stansd still for a long time.  During the standstill of time, each person processes the other beautiful person and sizes up the possibility for love. I hope not as that moment when eyes lock is a moment in time filled with excitement, hope, and lust.  A feeling I have experienced and hope to experience over and over again. But, we do live in a new age where technology has opened up new possibilities for communication.  Trust me, I welcome this!  If it were not for texting, emailing, and Face Book, I'd be one isolated single parenting chick.  I've said it before, technology has allowed me to connect and communicate with new and old friends.  Technology has even gotten me into the dating scene through sites like Match.com, however without much success.  I may be way to judgemental for online dating! I do wonder if it is possible we are learning